According to the United States
calendar, today is Father's Day. A day in which we
recognize the completeness and fulfillment of a very
amazing life calling. For, just one month ago, we also
honored mothers.
With the joining of a man and
woman comes the wonderful gift of co-creation with God.
The union of a man and woman produces new life. And this
new life is not just a by-product of your love or an
infant to oooh and ahhh over, to dress up and play with.
But fresh, new life that has the potential to change the
course of human existence.
And, so fathers….and
mothers….you have the awesome responsibility and
privilege to bring these lives to fruition. A calling
that no one should ever take lightly. Because in your
daily routine, your moments of nurture, playtime,
teaching time, work time, alone time your role as parent
becomes the most influential vehicle through which your
child comprehends God.
We may think that the Sunday
school teachers, VBS teachers and pastors are the most
important influence. But when you think - when you
think! - about how many times a child hears God called
"father" (in scripture, in prayers, in sermons) you will
begin to realize that we as parents profoundly influence
for better or worse that child's relationship with the
eternal force that will guide and direct him or her
through life.
Invitation:
So, today is going to be a
little different. There will be space and time for you
to share your stories of how your father - or mother -
influenced your faith in God. I invite you to talk about
the spiritual example or the way you were able to
envision God because of their life. For some this may be
a difficult memory because they have already returned
home to be with our Lord. Or maybe this is painful or
impossible because your parents are divorced, separated,
or just angry with one another or with you. But even
that pain means you realize what this parent could be
like in a world where we are not tempted and weak and
loaded down with trials, in a world instead where we
live side by side with Jesus, the Holy Spirit, and the
Father. Contemplate, too, the Father's pain as God has
to endure estrangement from God's very own children.
Testimony of Hallie's Dad
I'd like to tell you the story
of two dads, one named Ralph and the other one Joseph.
Testimony of Pastor Joan's Dad -
I don't remember my Dad attending worship unless he came
to see me recite the 23rd Psalm, or the Books of the
Bible, or get baptized. Oh, he knew what a church was
because he helped design the new building when the old
one got too small. My dad was a draftsman that worked on
aircraft carriers like the first Kitty Hawk and was more
than willing to offer his expertise.
So, it certainly wasn't my dad's
example of church attendance that made an impact on me.
But rather how he handled life's challenges. Sometime
during the years of WWII when so many doctors and nurses
were overseas, I understand my mom got real sick. They
operated on her for gall bladder but after they had
already closed the incision they discovered she had a
burst appendix and would have died if Dad hadn't
appealed to all the folks at New York Ship to give blood
for her transfusions.
Twenty years later, when she did
die from a sudden heart attack, I know, in his heart, he
longed to follow his soul mate but continued here until
I had grown up - always present, always dependable.
Then one day during my college
years a long hidden truth came to light. I heard from
someone other than my Dad that I was adopted. And, in
those moments when he and I sat across the kitchen table
face-to-face - in tears - we both came to understand the
depth of our relationship and the unspoken bond that
transcended genes and chromosomes and legal documents.
And, when I lost him a couple
years later and was set adrift alone in this wide sea of
humanity, I had the dedicated love of my father as the
prize to seek. I longed to experience God as this same
kind of father and I DID years later when I was embraced
by grace in a Lutheran Church. I came to know God as one
who was my redeemer and my friend. My father's example
of faith was not defined by rubrics and tradition. But
rather by choice and free will he bound himself to my
life that I might come to know unconditional love - and
then he let me go so that I might fall (as all of us
do). But I could rise up again because I knew who I was
- I was his daughter. And I know who I am, because I
have been claimed by Christ.
Father's Day Poem
Before I was myself you made
me, me
With love and patience, discipline and tears,
Then bit by bit stepped back to set me free,
Allowing me to sail upon my sea,
Though well within the headlands of your fears.
Before I was myself you made
me, me
With dreams enough of what I was to be
And hopes that would be sculpted by the years,
Then bit by bit stepped back to set me free,
Relinquishing your powers gradually
To let me shape myself among my peers.
Before I was myself you made
me, me,
And being good and wise, you gracefully
As dancers when the last sweet cadence nears
Bit by bit stepped back to set me free.
For love inspires learning naturally:
The mind assents to what the heart reveres.
And so it was through love
you made me, me
By slowly stepping back to set me free
Jesus' Dad, Joseph
And then there was a man named
Joseph. There is little written history of this father.
He's really only mentioned briefly in the biographies
told about his son. Yet throughout those pages, we hear
through the stories and parables told by Jesus, the
influence his dad had on his life, his message, and his
ministry. Remember the parable of the house built on
sand versus the house built on rock? Jesus spent his
childhood learning the trade of his father, carpentry.
He warned some about the beam of wood stuck in their
eyesight compared to the speck of sawdust that would
have been an everyday occurrence for Jesus and his dad.
Joseph must have been a kind
provider for his family for Jesus talked about the other
dads who played tricks on their kids. What father would
give his child a stone when he asked for bread, or a
snake instead of an egg?
Joseph adopted Mary and God's
baby into his family and into their heritage. Because of
political upheaval he had to flee to another country
with this child and mother leaving behind his business,
their home, and everything dear to them. Yet, instead of
bitterness, they took advantage of their stay in Egypt.
While there, Joseph began teaching this son the stories
of Israel's past and its hope for the future. What
better place than living in a home surrounded by the
pyramids built by the effort, the sweat, and the very
lives of his ancestors Abraham, Isaac, Joseph, Moses?
Joseph's little family experienced the bondage to exile
and the freedom of deliverance by God first hand. Joseph
honored this task so fully that we hear year's later of
Jesus staying behind at the temple talking with the most
educated of his people.
We soon hear nothing of Joseph
after this important caravan adventure. Church tradition
tells that he died before Jesus grew to be a man. And
yet his and Mary's influence was at the heart of the
foundation that prepared Jesus for the difficult and
life changing journey that lay ahead.
We as parents have that same
opportunity, that same privilege, that same
responsibility. You young couples, remember, with every
physical act of romance, you are inviting God to place
into your care a life that will not only affect your
future but the future of the world.
Today is Father's Day. We
recognize, honor and support the men who have accepted
that call from God - to be Dads - to be the foundation
of our new generations giving them the wisdom of your
experience and incorporation into your ancestry. At your
children's birth you were charged by the Father above
with teaching them of the Faith and introducing them to
Jesus and the Holy Spirit who will sustain them through
all of life's challenges.
We thank you.
Amen